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Progress Report 7 Happy New Year

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The good news first. Carol is waiting, not to patiently, for a female bed to open at Encompass Rehab Hospital. The medical team has discharged her from all but basic care. The major healing we are waiting for is for the bones to heal sufficiently to free her from the brace and cervical collar. Less than two more weeks. 

Just because we are spending almost no time in the coach doesn’t mean it isn’t demanding attention. I seem to have eliminated the current scourge of mice. I really don’t care for the glue pads, but they work. I have had one gas strut that holds a cabinet door open break, had a spare and replaced it, a seal in the toilet has given up the ghost and drawer closing latches have continued fail. Almost all of this can be attributed to constant daily use for over 8 years. All of  it will be made right when I can devote extended time to it.

Rosh HaShana is approaching rapidly as I write. It will be multiply strange. Carol and I will not be together tonight. We are in Virginia not Rochester and I will be “attending” TBK by live broadcast on YouTube while sitting in my motorhome in Dan and Malena’s yard. I can only pray that the New Year 5781 brings more joy to our family and to the country and the world than 5780. 

I need to remember that this past year also brought much joy for Carol and me  mixed with the sadness. We traveled to Egypt, in September, Morocco, with family, and Ethiopia, with Joyce and Victor, with a stop in Israel in December and January. We drove across the country in the Fall to get to Jojoba Hills SKP Resort and as Covid was being denied we flew to Panama only to be evacuated after a week. We are not destined to complete a tour of Panama. 

Our plan for 5781 includes a drive across the country to Jojoba Hills as usual and a trip to Sicily in April, if we are healthy and the world is returning to good health. I guess that the trip has about a 50% chance of happening. As an alternative we will do more exploration of the United States since we cannot be stopped at state boarders, yet. The joy of RVing is that we can isolate while moving about the country.  

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Progress Report 6

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I am starting this blog with not much to report. Carol has been in ICU far to long given her relatively good condition. Since she went to Rehab and came back that once, they are watching her very closely to be sure it doesn’t happen again. 

It was a BIG DAY in one regard. Carol had her hair done the day she fell. She has been getting unhappy about the way it looks for the last two or three days. At her command I brought in the clippers I use for me along with some attachments for longer hair. The staff were willing to set her up with a smock – made out of an under pad – and I trimmed her hair. I do not have permission to share the pictures but she is very happy with the result. I have discovered a new talent 🙂

Next day, Monday, Carol is back in the Step Down Unit. Staff keep asking what she is doing back here, they care about her, but would rather she not need the level of care they provide here. It would appear she will be here for a couple of days. Then back to “the floor.” We are both trying to be patient. 

In other news I am still fighting the presence of at least one mouse in the motorhome. On my way home this afternoon I will stop and buy many mouse traps and special bait to try to put an end to this invasion before it becomes a family affair. I may try sticky traps as well, it’s WAR! It was eating my toilet paper!

 

 

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Progress Report 5 a Bump in the Road

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After two days in rehab Carol experienced difficulty breathing and was returned to the hospital where another chest tube was placed. It appears to be helping and her breathing seems to be much improved. We have no idea when she will return to rehab. 

My life has been a roller coaster. From visiting all day long to not being able to visit to visiting all day long. I have done very little else other than routine housekeeping and cleaning up after a couple of mice. Well there were at least two, both are gone. Dan and I will reset the traps and see how many more we can catch. I haven’t seen any recent sign if that means anything. 

We talked with Shelle Knutson today, her husband, Ron took a bad spill on a his motorcycle and about the same time Carol fell and has many of the same injuries as Carol .  They are members of Jojoba Hills. She cannot visit at all and 2 is hours away from his hospital. 

The above was written on Saturday, it is now Friday, things change. I went home last night expecting to hear about transfer back to rehab today or tomorrow. Instead there has been a set back and Carol is back in ICU under going an endoscopy. That is all I know as I write this.

I will post again when I have something to post.

 

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Progress Report 4

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Great news! After 2 weeks less 4 hours, Carol is no longer a patient of UVA Medical acute care hospital. At 4 PM as promised this morning a transport crew arrived to move her to UVA Encompass Health Rehabilitation Hospital. I rode down the elevator with her on the transport gurney and kissed her goodbye as we parted at the first floor. I followed her over to the rehab and found as expected I was not able to see her or even get into the facility. This is hard on us, but the level of safety is reassuring. They even required that Carol have a covid test before they would accept her – negative of course. Now begins my wait for recovery with occasional visits as permitted by the facility. Carol has the hard work to do.

The only other news is not really mine to discuss in any detail. Malena and Dan are in the thralls of inspecting their new house, I get reports as appropriate. I hear about the horses. I am getting reports from Yechiel and Miriam on the West Coast as they update the bathrooms in their condo. 

My activity for the past two weeks has been mostly driving to and from the hospital and sitting with Carol. I haven’t the slightest idea what I will do with myself for the next couple of weeks. I do know the coach needs to be vacuumed and the floors washed and other maintenance that Carol keeps up with plus all my usual maintenance chores.

I am sure I will find ways to keep busy, even helping Dan and Malena prepare for the move and putting the house on the market. Or maybe I’ll join in a computer challenge that Dan has given our grandsons. 

 

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Progress Report 3

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Things are going more slowly than we could wish, but they are moving in the right direction. Carol moved from the “step down unit” to “the floor” in a semi private room a few days ago. Private rooms are apparently  being held for people who may be at higher contagion risk. She still needs to clear her lungs and get off the O2 feed and get her electrolytes in balance. I suspect the internal injury was greater than I was led to believe, or chose to hear. They are still pointing at a move to Rehab this week. There are no Covid 19 patients in the hospital  building where Carol is housed. UVA Health is fortunate to have an entire separate building for that care.

That is the short of it. I am being well cared for by Malena and Dan when I am not with Carol. Today I think we wore Carol out. I spent the morning in her room. Then Dan and Malena called to offer to take me out for lunch. After lunch Malena went up for a visit, I had made a special request to the Charge Nurse for permission to add a 3rd person to Carol’s list of visitors for ONE visit. Then Dan and Malena switched places while Malena and I went to see Alexander’s new apartment next to the UVA Grounds. Following that I spent the rest of the afternoon with Carol before returning to the coach to get some rest for me. 

The response from our family and friends across the country from our newer friends in Jojoba Hills SKP Resort, to our friends in Rochester who we have known for 50 years or more, to our friends we have met in all the corners of this country in our RV travels THANK YOU, THANK YOU  for your caring support. As I read the messages to her, Carol is overwhelmed with warm feeling. I keep telling her nobody expects her to write a personal note right away, but you know she is starting a list 🙂 

Please note Carol has not had the opportunity to edit or approve this post, I am on my own for this writing. 

 

 

 

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Progress Report 2

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We have been overwhelmed by the caring, loving response to Carol’s injuries. Neither she nor I will be able to respond individually accept our gratitude from the depths of our hearts for your love and well wishes. Note; the hospital has no volunteers moving about the floors to deliver flowers or even cards. As our Rving community knows there is no space whatsoever for flowers in the motorhome. Cards may be mailed to me at my son’s home, please email for the address, this is far to public  a place for that information. If you like you could send a gift in Carol’s honor to Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra (rpo.org) Temple B’rith Kodesh (tbk.org) or any other place of your choice. Or read a good book and pass it on!

Since my last post Carol has been moved from ICU to a “Step Down Unit” and just now we are told that she will be moving to a general medical unit as soon as a bed opens. Progress indeed. I’ll stop before I get into TMI.

We are looking into rehab facilities for post discharge. I fear that unlike the freedom I have had here to visit regularly, I will not be able to spend much time with her because of Covid 19 restrictions. 

I am struggling a bit with the limited time for visitation, once a week for an hour “socially” distanced and no contact, only two people . But as a great wit said, “it is what it is”. Maybe by the time she makes that move things will have lightened up some. For now we are marking time waiting for healing and a bed in the next  unit. 

 

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Progress Report

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I am sitting with Carol in STICU (Surgical Trauma ICU) waiting for transfer to “Step Down Unit” This is good news as she is stabilized and healing. This is her third day in this unit. She has a brace for her back and the rest of the injuries supposedly will heal without any intervention, just time.

She has her phone with her now. Please continue to call me before calling her as she is resting a lot and the staff are around much of the time working with her. 

There is not much more to tell. I am splitting my time between the hospital and trying to keep up with the chores on the motorhome, oh yes and taking care of myself as well. This blog has dropped in my priority list a bit. I will try to be a bit more diligent going forward.  

Don’t hesitate to email or call.

She just said I should say she is smiling 🙂 indeed her sunny side shows through even as she is lying in the hospital bed. She hasn’t checked her email yet, I’m sure as soon as she can you will hear from her directly.

In Virginia

Life Goes On and On

Maybe it is denial, maybe it is wishful thinking, maybe I just had a minute more than was reasonable to look at an email from OAT. I opened it! I read it! I reread it and saw that if I booked and things looked bleak when departure was approaching I could change the departure with no penalty. I looked at my account and saw I had  credits to cover the cost which I would lose if I didn’t travel before the end of 2022. We  both miss travel overseas. 

I think that is enough declarative sentences to get the idea. We have booked a trip with Overseas Adventure Travel (OAT) to Sicily for April 2021. The last trip we booked was Panama way back in 2019, the booking, the trip was March of 2020. We are scheduled to leave April 5 and return April 30. If it doesn’t happen we will go when we can. It will have been more than a year since we crossed the borders other than to Canada maybe.

We have not been sitting still. Over the weekend Leigh and Pat were here to visit us and Dan and Malena. I have told the story of our friendship several times in these pages. We went to Monticello with no crowds thanks to the pandemic and also took a tour of the UVA Grounds guided by our grandson Alexander, a fourth year student there. On Sunday we hiked a piece of the AT where it crosses the Blue Ridge Parkway. People were suitable masked in all of those environs. We dined at home although we did have a Bourbon tasting at Ragged Mountain Distillery. They have a beautiful patio with a marvelous overlook and we were separated from other parties by way more than 2 meters. 

After a moment of quiet from Sunday afternoon to Monday afternoon Patrick Watkin appeared as expected. Pat is Dan’s step son from an earlier marriage. He calls us Bubbe and Zayde as he has since he was an infant. Today he is a very large man, taller than Josh and Corey. Shortly after his arrival Josh manifested in the driveway and another gala of stories and food began. Alexander will be joining the merriment tonight and Dan will have his four boys together for the first time in decades. We are so grateful to be able to share the joy. 

Although all have been keeping themselves in relative seclusion for months we do recognize that there is inherent risk in this gathering. So be it! We are not hugging and we are staying further apart than we might wish with masks ready, but we are together and not subject to the loneliness that leads to depression. As noted at the beginning of this post we are planning out into the future and look forward to more 2 meter gatherings with friends when we return to Rochester.

Oh meters! We have traveled enough that metric and Celsius seem normal to us. Tell me it 40 out and I will shuck down to tee shirt not reach for my windbreaker. Carol got a piece of equipment that  listed a maximum distance of 6 feet 6 inches. It seemed strange until I realized that the original measurement was 2 meters. 

But I wander. . .

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The Jello Has Set

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For the longest time we have talked about plans set in Jello that is still warm, which is to say thoughts about plans that we might actually act on some day, maybe (phrase that was guaranteed to annoy our kids when they were kids).  We have been enjoying our sojourn on the farm for the past 2  months. We have lived our separate lives and being able to get together to chat when they are not totally wrapped up in the farm, the horses and work. But travel calls and we haven’t seen our Rochester apartment in 9 months. 

I opened RVTripWizard just to see what it showed for the route to Rochester, as if I didn’t know the route by heart. I noted that a stop in Milton PA at Shangri la on the Creek was the perfect midpoint and even looked up our preferred site. I looked at the calendar and found that we both have appointments with a doctor in late August. It seemed propitious to plan to move. I had already booked storage for the coach in Victor, just in case! So the plan, now firmly set in well chilled Jello is for us to arrive back in Rochester on August 24 and continue  virtual meeting from that new location for a couple of months. 

The less firmly set plan is to depart Rochester before it gets cold, the end of October, and begin a drift back across the country to Jojoba Hills SKP Resort with no planned arrival date there. We hope at some point to be able to resume international travel. I think we are in the longest period without such travel plans since 2012. Until the USA gets it’s act together it appears that any international travel is out of the question. We have become a pariah nation. I have an appointment in Fort Erie Ontario mid October for an interview to renew my Nexus pass, but I may not be able to cross the border to get to the interview and the Niagara Falls NY office is not open. I have until October 2021 to have that interview so there is no great rush.

We are looking forward to a visit here with Lee and Pat who we have gotten together with almost every year since 2002 as we passed through Austin or later Charlotte. Their friendship helps keep us feeling young. They are about Dan and Malena’s age. We have gone dancing in bars in Austin and walked through glorious gardens and galleries both in Austin and Charlotte. We will be visiting Monticello with them as they have never been.

My committee to seek a replacement phone system for the current antique is moving along. Tomorrow, Wednesday, I will present our work to the community for their information. sooner rather than later I expect to present it to the board for approval. 

More to come soon, stay healthy!

 

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Where Was I?

Some random questions:

If men in unmarked vehicles with no marking on their clothes are snatching people off the street, that is called kidnapping. Why aren’t the Portland Police arresting them and charging them?

If my wearing a mask protects YOU then my NOT wearing a mask would be an assault. Why aren’t we arresting people for assault when they are in places where distancing is not happening and they are not masked ?

Why is science and data ignored for the sake of political or financial gain? 

Why are campgrounds closed to me? I can keep my distance and isolate while traveling in my self contained RV. I do not need any services. I can pay electronically and I will go out of my RV to connect up the fittings while wearing my mask. I do not want any contact with staff or other RVers.

I feel like a three year old repeatedly asking WHY. But unlike a three year old I get no answers, not even “because.”

Enough questions. I have been chairing a committee at Jojoba Hills SKP Resort to decide what to do with our aging phone system. Since March we have been seeking resources to repair/rebuild the old system or to replace it with new system.   Without going into detail, this past week we settled on a new system and have negotiated a price we think is sustainable. In true Jojoba character, we needed a really tough negotiator and a new member of the park joined our team and announced that he was negotiating contracts almost daily and he would be glad to take on this negotiation. 

In other news we took the car to Wilmington NC to visit cousin Mimi who lives in the house she grew up in and has rehabbed to her taste after her father and brother both lived out their lives there. We had a wonderful two nights and renewed acquaintance with dog Diesel who is now 17 years old and a bit slow. In the past we visited Mimi on her farm about 30 miles out of town staying in our motorhome near the house. We are good at staying on farms. 

As I write the temperature can only be described as HOT. The AC ‘s are running continuously and holding the indoor temperature to 82! I have ventured out for some minor maintenance and to check in with Dan. It is better than freezing and snow, but only just barely. We did have our family zoom at noon today and had a chance to chat with Toronto, Los Angeles California and Madison Wisconsin as well as Vermont. It is always interesting to see who will show up. Mixing Carol’s cousins and my cousin’s creates new relationships. 

My coming week will be spent presenting our telephone proposal to the Finance Committee so they can prepare for the changes to the budget. Then to the entire park before taking it to the Board. Funny, that actually sounds like someone’s work week. For me it is still a volunteer gig that I am enjoying doing.

Stay Safe! Stay Healthy!