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Preparation II

I’m running out of clever for titles. As we continue our preparation for travel we are deeply involved in following the collision that will start on November 5, the ongoing heartache of war in the Middle East and the rising tide of anti-Semitic hate in the world and in the US.   All of this is leading to loss of sleep, especially when piled on top plans for departure. 

I would think that getting ready to leave would be the least of our worries since we have done this almost every year since 2002, with some intermediate departures along the way. Somehow as our 82nd birthdays are approaching everything seems just a bit more difficult, both physically and mentally. A couple of days ago we stopped by the coach, in storage, to be sure the batteries were topped up – grateful for an effective solar system which I had installed many years ago – checking for leaks given the rain we have experienced and being sure there was no flat tire to deal with. All is good as of now.

Just had an email from our planned first stop in Cleveland cancelling our reservation. Its a Harvest Host Winery and apparently they have upset their neighbors and sleeping in a vehicle is not permitted in the area. This set off a scramble on my part to find a place to stay near the city. Well an hour away is the best I can do. We will drive in in the morning and spend the day. Once I got started I had to make plans for the week or two following. After a stop in Columbus OH – less than a week before election day, our next reserved stop is Tom Sawyer RV Park in West Memphis AR for three nights of watching barge traffic on the Mississippi. Election Day it appears we will be in Dallas. That should be interesting. Plans after Tom Sawyer are still in unset Jello as far as timing. We will be watching the news to stay away from trouble spots to the extent possible. 

Circling back to the beginning, I worry, I lose sleep, for the United States, for Israel, for the world. Not least I am concerned about the rising anti Semitism which seems to be able to threaten us and our family very personally. 

More from the road.

 

 

Preparation

So much to prepare for and the time is passing quickly. The High Holiday season, the Days of Awe, begin tonight and continue until sunset on Saturday the 12th. Holidays continue on the 16th through the 23rd. Carol and I plan to spend the 23rd driving to Cleveland, more preparation. 

After visiting friends from the past in Cleveland we had planned to continue on south to Asheville NC to visit with Leigh and Pat who we have known for more than 24 years.  It appears that Helene has obliterated that plan. Even if they got everything cleaned up and the water supply restored and the campground reopened, I would not want to take our coach on the remnants of the road system in the mountains. This is still subject to change.

This is only one impact of the storm on us directly. Our grandson Corey is a student at Lees-McRae College in Banner Elk, a tiny mountain town in the heart of the devastated area. He, his girl friend and several other friends got in their cars and somehow managed to get out of the mountains over makeshift bridges and washed out roads to make their way to Dan and Malena’s house to wait to see when the school will be able to reopen. 

That’s about it for the beginning of October. 

Hmm, just noticed that the blog is still on Pacific Time. I will see about changing that.

Antisemitism Today

This is a difficult topic both to start writing about and to live with. It has been part of my life since I can remember being part of a mixed community going back to first grade. It was not always blatant and in my face, but it has always been there whether I recognized it or not. My earliest years were on a street in Rochester where three neighbor houses had a total of 21 Catholic children. My best friend from that group started trying to convert me before I was 10. The time period was the mid 40’s to the mid 50’s. I wasn’t bullied any more than anyone, but I found it easier to play with the Jewish children in the neighborhood. We knew who each other were even if our families belonged to different synagogues.

So what is this thing that has a meaningless name? Historically we were a group who refused to accept the common belief structure of the non Jewish people around us as the Christian world developed in the early centuries of the Common Era. The Catholic story convicted us of deicide which set us apart as an evil people. This was consistent until Vatican II when the Pope apologized. By then the idea was well set in people’s mind. Hitler sought to purify the “Aryan Race” and the Jews were the major target of his need to do that. There were other victims, particularly the Romish and Homosexual people. 

We owned a house on Sandringham Road in the town of Brighton. When I read the deed, in 1972, I found that there was a restrictive clause prohibiting the sale of the land to “Negroes and Jews”. This clause was not enforceable by the time we bought, but it was still in the deed. Family members were denied acceptance to UR Medical school in the 40’s because they were Jewish. I remember discussing the quota I faced in applying to Ivy League schools in 1959. The quotas were rising, but they still existed. If you think this is all past history, look at the current debate and Supreme Court ruling regarding admission quotas, Jews may not seem to play in the current rulings, but the very idea of such quotas dates back to the founding of these exclusive schools. Disclosure: I graduated from Brown University with a BA and an MBA from Columbia Graduate School of Business. 

These very schools are facing a significant antisemitic challenge today. The Arab world has refused to give Jews the right to land granted them after World War II by the United Nations. The grant was a division of the land between the Mediterranean and the Jordan River. Neither side was happy with the division, but the Jews agreed to make a country in the land they were granted. Within hours the Arabs rose up to drive them out and take all the land. The presence of Jews in “their” land was anathema. Nothing has changed since then. The slaughter of October 7 was a continuation of actions the Arabs have taken against Jews in the land going back in the 1930’s. They are an implacable enemy. 

I feel very sorry for the people dying in Gaza as a result of their leaders refusal to accept the continued existence of the Jewish state. If their leaders want to make it stop, it is within their power to say yes to a cease fire and an exchange of hostages for prisoners. Israel can stop bombing, but that will only encourage Hamas to continue their long game which is nothing less than the destruction of Israel and the massacre of millions of Jews, because once they are “pushed into the sea” they have no place to go. 

The pro Palestinian students either have not followed the logic or they are willing to demand the murder of millions of Jews because “From the River to the Sea, Palestine must be Free” is not just a slogan it is a promise of genocide. In all of this antisemitism flourishes. 

 

September – already!

The calendar has been filling to the point that there seems little open time before we load the coach and head west.  We have said repeatedly that Yom Kippur, which falls on October 12 this year, marks the earliest possible start across the country. With no specific dates to be anyplace until a rally in Coachella in December our departure date is still open. We need to plan a stop in Asheville NC which will put a pushpin in our map and calendar. This would most likely be preceded by a stop in Cleveland OH which is just about a five hour drive from Rochester. None of this is in stone – yet.

Our calendar is filled with social engagements, community events and medical appointments. Looking forward to the first two in that group, the last item not so much. Carol has been busy with her “list” trying to make sure we get to see everyone before we get back on the road to California. 

Watch for another post I am working on, contemplating on an altogether different subject.

 

and Found

When we arrived in Rochester on the coach I wrote this:

Unloading the coach and moving the unloaded stuff into the apartment was time consuming and frustrating. We are prone to loosing things from time to time, but a pound of ground beef? Yup someplace in the coach, the car or the apartment there is a one pound package of ground beef slowly decomposing – gross! 

Today we returned to the coach to run the generator for a while as is necessary to keep things working. As I reached into the Jeep console for the keys I realized the usual keyring was missing. I must have decided they did not need to go to Canada and wait around there for two weeks and taken them into the apartment, Baad Idea. I did have a key to get into the coach, just not to open any of the compartments to turn on the chassis batteries which is necessary to open the slides, and other things.

As soon as I opened the door I knew not everything was wonderful. My nose led me to the refrigerator which stood with doors partially open for storage. Looking inside I found the missing pound of ground beef, or its decomposed remains. I cannot imagine how we left that in the refrigerator after we turned it off, cleaned it and prepared it for storage. I know that I had looked in there several times just to be sure. I have the drawers and shelf in the apartment to clean up. I will plan a return trip in the next day or two to put everything in order. YUCK!

After 24 years of RVing I found a new way to make things miserable in the coach. I do not want to imagine what my next RV problem will be.

The WHOLE Trip

In the past I have been asked for a map of the trip. I always figured that most people could enter our locations into Google Maps or Earth and see where we were. However I thought today I would show you the entire trip directly from the planning software I have been using for several years. Here is a link to the WHOLE Trip. I could also give you Google’s version of where we have been Timeline. It is almost as good as the actual map. 

Facts: Miles driven 3,225. Diesel Fuel Purchased 416.59 Gallons – we started with about 3/4 of a tank (100 gallon tank capacity) and topped off in Pembroke NY. That came to $1,324. The inevitable question is how many miles per gallon – 7.74 but we burned probably 11 gallons in the generator. Cost per mile is $.41 not bad for moving almost 40,000 pounds across the country.  Maybe the most shocking number is what we paid for campgrounds – $1,075 and we stayed for free for 7 nights. We averaged $51 per night in campgrounds. That includes 4 nights in an Elks Lodge for $35/night. This is where inflation is the most visible. It is about double what we might have seen 10 years ago. 

I was tempted to compare it to traveling by car, but I don’t have real facts and travel by plane is a very different category of travel. 

Later Post – Wrapping up – Two

I am sitting in the apartment living room. This was another uneventful drive, one fuel stop and into our storage lot. The spaces are tight. Eleven feet in width is a whole lot less than 12 feet or even eleven feet six inches. The coach is eight feet six inches wide. I’ll let you calculate the excess space, it is tight. I can barely open a bay door to turn off the chassis batteries. We rented here in the past but I forgot – well enough about that.

Unloading the coach and moving the unloaded stuff into the apartment was time consuming and frustrating. We are prone to loosing things from time to time, but a pound of ground beef? Yup someplace in the coach, the car or the apartment there is a one pound package of ground beef slowly decomposing – gross! We returned to the coach after a period of unpacking and storing to pick up some items forgotten in the rush, jewelry, shoes, spices, this aging thing is really getting annoying. Dinner at Panera solved the food problem and gave us a moment to slow down and not have to work in the kitchen, which is buried in stuff needing to find a home. 

Oh yes, the batteries in our remotes have all failed over the lengthy absence.

The Best Laid Plans

Another way of saying that is “Man Plans, G-d Laughs” or “On to Plan C?” Originally we planned to leave on October 10. Then the car was creased in a parking lot while we were enjoying a meal. That pushed us back to the 11th, still doable. Then Carol’s doctor wanted one more test, now scheduled for the 13th, so we planned on departing on the 14th or 15th. Just spoke to the collision shop and the new bumper has not come in. Once they get it they need two days, the earliest would be Friday the 14th, the earliest we can leave would be the 15th which would get us to C’ville just in time for my 80th birthday on the 17th. I’m not betting on it. I’m pretty sure we will be there for Carol’s on Nov 2. I really want to get out of Rochester before any hard freezes so I don’t have to winterize the coach.

We have plenty to do here so boredom won’t be an issue. We have been moving stuff into the coach the past couple of days. I just hope we don’t need any of it in the coming week. 

Rohma and Josh have spent time with us each weekend and it has been a delight. This past Saturday they prepared dinner in advance of going to the RPO for a wonderful concert together. See Carol’s FaceBook post for more details. https://www.facebook.com/anncarol.goldberg

I’m keeping up with my responsibilities at Jojoba Hills by email and zoom and the occasional phone call.. Its fun being 3 hours ahead of everyone until they start replying late into the evening their time. I never get to see those messages until the morning. I must admit I am really impatient to see the redone Friendship Hall Annex and our site, not to mention  our friends, but it will all have to wait until we can leave here.

Looking Back; Looking Ahead

As I sat in our usual seats in the sanctuary at Temple B’rith Kodesh I knew many people were missing. Many have died with the passage of years. Many have moved on, especially the children of our friends who filled the space in their teens and early 20’s. We used to arrive early to be sure of the aisle seats four rows back on the right aisle.  We needed most of the row starting with my parents then us and our children followed by aunts and cousins. 20 years ago I moved to the aisle seat after my Dad’s passing.  Today there was one other couple sitting in that row with us and three or four other couples from “those days” in the section, none of us under 70.

Although I was not directly thinking about the changing demographics of our community or the impact of covid on attendance, it was apparent. I remember a time when we had four generations in our family called to the bimah, from my mother to our grandson. Our children and grandchildren have moved away or to other times of their lives and we are left as the remnant of family continuing a membership that dates back to 1948. We will certainly be the last to maintain that string. 

In a moment of foolishness I have agreed to read from the Torah for tomorrow’s service. It is daunting since I have not undertaken this honor since Corey’s bar mitzvah seven years ago. I consider it practice for my own “second bar mitzvah” which I intend to celebrate on my 83rd birthday, 3 years from now. Life expectancy according to a passage I cannot cite is 3 score years and 10 or by reason of strength 4 score years. 

We are looking forward to a better year than last for the world and for us. In the short term we look forward to driving to Hamilton ON to visit Carol’s Aunt Dorothy, the baby of her generation at only 99, before making preparations to drive across the country in GeeWhiz leaving in the second week of October. I look forward to resuming my in person treasury responsibilities and exploring new friendships in Jojoba Hills SKP Resort as well as renewing longer term friendships which have been limited to social media and zoom calls since May. 

It is harder to look beyond a year as we used to. We are more aware of the passage of time and the state of our own health as we make plans. The world seems a more risky place to venture, between extreme weather events and extreme political events. Carol and I have noted that often places we have visited recently have become powder kegs within a year after our departure The most recent example being Ethiopia. I have often said I would not let threats of terrorism determine my travel plans. I will let acts of terrorism and war deter me from visiting.  We have no current plans but we are considering some small ship adventures in areas that are somewhat remote to the ongoing active fighting and massive storms. 

I am hopeful about the future of our grandsons as they pursue education and careers and maybe someday even present us with a great grandchild- no pressure – careers first. 

Now I must review Bereshit in preparation for tomorrow and go blow shofar one more time!

This and That

I may have a rant or two coming in this or future posts, but if I don’t start writing I may have a hard time getting started again until we are on the road with road stories to tell. We do plan to be heading out in GeeWhiz on or about October 11. Why so specific? Well a couple of weeks ago a clod in a white Jeep Gladiator pulled out of the parking space next to our Jeep and didn’t quite make it out without clipping the left front corner. I’m quite sure he meant well, but he never left any information like his name or license number, just some white paint and a bent bumper. I am told that the car will be ready on October 10. In the meantime we are driving around with various bits displaced from there normal locations until October 3. No rant here, just normal incivility in today’s society.

Fringe Festival is on in Rochester this week and next. For those who immerse in it, it is longer and more varied than Jazz Fest. Carol tells me we are attending a smattering of Fringe events. I expect that will give me more to write about after we have attended.

We actually went to a movie, in a theater! We saw Top Gun: Maverick in a nearly empty theater with the cushiest theater seating I can remember experiencing at a Tinseltown. In short, we enjoyed the experience and the movie and especially the ice cream at Hedonist on the way home. Good treats of all kinds. I didn’t get popcorn for the movie, the line was too long and slow 🙁 

We are planning a day trip to Canada with a stop at the border to update our Nexus Cards on September 28.  We will visit family, especially Aunt Dorothy who turned 99 this summer. Great genes! 

In the midst of all this the High Holydays are approaching more quickly than expected as usual. I have a couple of assignments that I need to prepare for. More on that after the fact. 

A Rant: I probably spend more time than is healthy on social media. RVillage.com is devoted to RVers. A member asked what the problem is with the South entrance to an Elks Lodge. A variety of respondents said “Use the North Entrance” The questioner said, “but what’s the problem with the South entrance”. The responses replied just use the North entrance it is easier. One even posted a Google Earth image of the lot showing the two entrances. The questioner was not satisfied. I wanted to respond. “The South entrance has alligators and deep ditches” but refrained from such snark. I didn’t even post “You have been told that the correct entrance is the North, if you must try the South go ahead and expect to pay for damage to your coach and the grounds”. When we are going someplace in the motorhome and have directions from another RVer we don’t go looking for alternatives just because we want to know.